No two sessions look exactly the same. We usually begin by checking in with what has been happening and noticing how you are arriving. Not only mentally, but emotionally and physically.
Depending on what you need, a session may include conversation, body awareness, grounding, nervous system regulation, parts work, practical reflection, EMDR or sex and intimacy counselling. I will help guide the process, but we always work at a pace that feels manageable for you.
No. Somatic therapy includes the body rather than ignoring it.
We may explore your thoughts, emotions, relationships and past experiences while also paying attention to sensations, tension, breathing, movement, impulses or moments of shutdown.
This can help us notice responses that talking and analysing alone may not reach.
No. You remain in control of what you share.
You do not need to tell me every detail for our work to be meaningful, and I will not push you to disclose something before you are ready.
We can begin with what you are experiencing in the present and gradually decide together what feels useful and safe to explore.
Somatic therapy does not automatically involve touch and you will never be unexpectedly touched or asked to participate in anything you do not want to do.
Most of our work uses awareness, movement, grounding and guided exercises that you do yourself.
EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing. It is a trauma processing method that can help the brain and body process memories or experiences that still trigger strong reactions in the present.
During EMDR, we focus on specific elements of an experience while using bilateral stimulation, such as guided eye movements or alternating tapping.
You remain awake, aware and in control throughout. EMDR does not erase the memory, but it can reduce the emotional intensity around it and help the experience feel like something that happened in the past rather than something your system is still reliving.
Yes. I am a sex and intimacy counsellor, and this is an important part of Embodya.
You can come to me with concerns around desire, pleasure, orgasm, sexual shame, performance anxiety, pain or tension, disconnection from your body, communication, consent, boundaries or the impact of past experiences on intimacy.
Our work is educational, therapeutic and fully clothed. There is no sexual contact or sexualised touch.
Yes. I work with couples around intimacy, communication, sexual differences, recurring conflict, trust, consent and feeling emotionally or physically disconnected.
Couples sessions are not about deciding who is right.
We slow down the pattern between you, help each person understand what is happening underneath it and practise communicating in ways that create more safety, honesty and connection.
Couples sessions are 75 or 90 minutes.
Yes. I work with men online.
Men come to me with concerns including performance anxiety, shame, difficulty expressing needs, pressure around sex, disconnection from their bodies, relationship patterns and difficulty navigating desire or intimacy.
You do not need to already be comfortable talking about these things, that is part of what the space is for.
There is no honest universal answer. Some people come for a focused concern or a short period of support, while others choose longer-term work because they want to explore deeper patterns.
During the intake, we can discuss what you hope to change and what kind of support may fit.
We will continue reviewing the work together rather than keeping you in therapy indefinitely simply because nobody has dared mention the exit.
Embodya is not an emergency or crisis service.
I am not able to provide immediate crisis intervention, psychiatric assessment, medication management or the intensive support needed when someone is at immediate risk of harming themselves or somebody else.
If your needs fall outside my scope, I will be honest about that and, where possible and help you identify a more appropriate form of support.
This is not rejection; it is responsible care.
Then it makes complete sense if beginning again feels difficult.
A previous experience of feeling misunderstood, judged, pushed too quickly or simply not helped can make it harder to trust another therapist.
I will never expect you to trust me automatically just because I am sitting in the therapist’s chair.
During the intake, you are welcome to tell me what did not work for you and what you need to feel safer this time.
You remain in control of what you share,and you can question, pause or change direction at any point.
We will take time to see whether working together feels right.
You are not only being assessed for whether you are a good fit for Embodya; you are allowed to assess whether I am a good fit for you too.